Think back to your childhood. Remember the feeling that you could be anyone or do anything? What did you imagine your life to look like? Is your life where you envisioned it would be? Do you feel worthy of living a purposeful life?
Now, in our 20’s, 30’s, or 40’s we are living our life. Most of us get complacent and comfortable. We have an “ok” job, a relationship with our significant other that isn’t at its best, and our health is less than ideal as well.
Our life isn’t necessarily bad, but it’s not amazing either.
And yet so many of us are ok with this. Maybe we feel like everything is going smoothly and we don’t want to cause any ripples in our life that can possibly turn into waves.
But what if that ripple we start causes a wave of good things?
Sometimes we see other peoples’ success… on TV and around us, but we don’t feel like we can have that type of success. It’s just not in the cards for us and we feel undeserving of happiness, success, and even love.
Can you look at your life and say that each aspect of your life has reached its full potential? In your job, marriage, friendships, and health? Do you strive for better, to push yourself out of your comfort zone, to not settle for a mediocre life?
Do you feel worthy of having it all?
So many times, we feel undeserving of living a truly happy life.
Here are 5 ways you can work through the self-doubts to feel worthy of living the life of your dreams.
- Don’t let your past define you
Whatever past we’ve had, it does not define who we are or our future. Many times, when we were growing up someone might have told us that we weren’t good enough. Maybe we had an absent parent that left us feeling unwanted. Those small seeds of hurt manifested themselves and grew like weeds around our hearts.
In order to create a future different from our past, we must dig deep and come to terms with the past. Acknowledge the hurt and use it to fuel your motivation to move forward.
- Stop blaming others
In our lives, we blame others for our misfortunes. We blame that coworker for getting that promotion instead of us or our significant other for the problems in our relationship. In order to have a life that we are proud of, we need to take ownership for every single thing that happens in our life. Some things that happen to us are truly out of our control. BUT we still have the power to control how we react to everything that happens. In our life, we play the biggest role. We need to take responsibility of which direction our life is going and know we can change the course at any time.
- Change your mindset
We need to shift our perspective on the way we see things. It takes a lot of work to see the good in bad situations. Especially if we’ve been doing the opposite our entire lives. If you focus on the negative, everything else will get clouded behind it. Changing your mindset to see the positive in every situation will help you see the beauty during the storms.
- Speak truth into your life
Like stated in #3, we are what we believe, think, and more importantly, say about ourselves. Affirming yourself on a daily basis is crucial in working toward reaching your potential. If you speak it enough you will begin to believe it and others will too.
- Get to work
Having a purposeful and successful life doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t come without hard work. Once you acknowledge and believe that you are worthy, and you deserve the very best, you’ll have better clarity and focus on where you want to go.
We, as women, were created for more than settling for a mediocre life.
Let yourself envision the life you want to create for yourself and give it everything you have to get there. Nelson Mandela said it best, “There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
Gretchen Dauzat is a freelance writer who is passionate about helping women be proactive in living fulfilling lives. She is a wife and mom of four kids – ages 4, 3 and 1-year-old twins. You can read more about Gretchen at www.GretchenDauzat.com